fix or join
Aug 14th, 2007 by Nathanael
I have two beautiful nieces, Lana and Grace. They are 4 years old and were the flower girls in our wedding. Lana and Grace are more than cousins, they are very close friends. They were born about two weeks apart and love each other dearly.
When Gracie was born, her fourth toe on her right foot was slightly higher than the rest of her toes. Becky and Ken, my sister and brother-in-law, had doctor’s look at it early on. But because it would not cause any permanant damage, it was left alone.
Friday evening, Michelle and I were with some of my siblings. And my sister Lydia (Lana’s mother) reminded us of a cute story that happened about two years ago. Lana purposely took her fourth toe and made it ride on top of the other toes and said, “Look, I’m just like Gracie!” She didn’t try to fix Grace’s toe. She joined Grace in her uniqueness.
It is easier to try to fix someone than it is to join with them in whatever it is they are going through. It takes less time, and it’s certainly less messy. And if they don’t take our “advice,” well, they just have coming whatever it is that’s coming, don’t they? They should’ve listened.
Do me a favor and slap me when I try to fix you.
